We're back with the second part of our interview with Beth Giles. Today we're chatting about how important it is to carve out time for yourself, no matter how busy life may seem. Beth also shares some of her favorite details about Long Beach and has a few tips for local Moms!
In what ways do you create time for yourself? Do you have any self-care rituals?
This is something I have started to take more seriously. Why do us Moms kill ourselves by sacrificing for everyone and then feel guilty when we have (our own) needs? I have realized that I don't need that much, but I do have needs and they are normal and healthy. My newest thing is to take a Saturday or Sunday afternoon and evening all to myself. I leave around 2pm and go shopping and then to dinner or the movies by myself. I leave it open ended and then I don’t feel the pressure to go home. I can truly relax. Also, I love going for walks in the evening, it is my way of releasing the tensions of the day. I will put on one of my favorite essential oils, usually Balance for grounding, and listen to natural health or small business podcast while I walk.
Since The Light House is focused on our immediate community, can you tell us your favorite thing about living in Long Beach? Do you feel there has recently been a shift in the local ethos about Wellness and Healthy Lifestyles for our families?
I love Long Beach, because even though almost half a million people live here, it feels like a small town in the best way. I always run into to people I know and if I meet someone new, they inevitably know someone that I know. I do think things are changing in Long Beach and I love it here because people are not afraid to try things and to ask questions. I think the diverse population makes it inviting to newcomers as well. The standard on shops and restaurants concepts is rising too as new businesses are taking things up a notch.
What advice would you share with new Mothers living in Long Beach? What are your suggestions on getting plugged into the community?
I think the key here is getting out of our comfort zones. When you are exhausted by sleepless nights and struggling with your child’s tantrums or reflux it’s hard to put yourself out there and meet new people. However, in my experience, all the other Moms are feeling the same way. Let’s not judge each other, let’s meet at the park, share our struggles and laugh. Let’s feel free to put our post pregnancy bodies in a bathing suit and go to Mother’s Beach because we can’t do this alone. I have found small businesses, parks, the library and my kids schools to be a great places to meet other Moms. I try to just strike up a conversation while I am pushing the girls on the swings and see where it goes.
Great advice to end with! The transition from "pre-baby" life to Motherhood can be bumpy at times. Connecting to others going through the same issues can make the heaviest concerns seem lighter. Keep an open mind and make eye contact at the parks! You never know who is going to be your biggest ally in the future.